Here we are, with another New Year upon us. I don’t make New Year’s resolutions anymore, but I do set goals. I also spend some time at the close of the year to think about how the year shaped up. I don’t normally share these revelations publicly, but I’ve decided to do so, as some of the things I’ve learned might just help someone else.

  1. The power of declarations. When I set my goals for 2018, I declared that I would have 3 paid speaking gigs, and that I would travel internationally. I ended up with a 2-part retreat (2 sessions) with a large nonprofit in the DC area, and a weekend workshop with Caribbean women in the Cayman Islands (my international trip)! I also attracted 3 other speaking gigs as well. When I made those goals, I did not know how they would manifest, but I believed, and I continued to show up, hone my craft, etc. This is the power of attraction at work. Powerful stuff.
  2. If you want to become healthier and release weight, you must be intentional. In this area, I was an epic fail in 2018. I loaded myself up with work, so didn’t create space to exercise. Even though I have a standing desk at work, I wasn’t using it much by the end of the year. I dabbled in some exercise here and there, but not consistent enough to make a real difference. My diet was “OK”, but I switched my obsession from ice cream to chips, (avoiding dairy). As you might imagine, I ended up gaining weight! In 2019 I am working on falling in love with myself again – including shifting my relationship to diet and fitness from “have to” to “loving on myself”. I’ve gotten started already and I feel the difference.
  3. There is such a thing as too much of a good thing. 2018 was an amazing year for me. I am grateful for God’s blessings and new opportunities. I grew in ways I didn’t anticipate. I got to do some cool things and achieve some of my goals. I also worked way too much. And by Thanksgiving, I was worn out, and spent several weeks sick in December.  I’m working on achieving more balance in 2019. We will see how it goes!
  4. I’ve got nothing to prove… to “them” … or to myself! This is a follow-up to number 3. Some of you know that I’ve been writing and speaking more about some personal stuff, including my youth, losing my mom as a teen and her personal struggles, meeting my dad for the first time a few years ago. This season of my life has helped me realize that I’ve spent much of my life ashamed of my past and overcompensating by achieving and hyper-activity. I’ve had some people tell me that I wear them out (lol). This is going to seem like a no-brainer, but I FINALLY got it that I personally don’t have anything to prove. Yes, it’s one of my core messages, but it took running myself into the ground for me to finally pay attention that this message was for me too – not just my tribe. So, this year, I’m doing things a bit differently. I don’t even know what that means, yet, but I will keep you posted.
  5. Stay open to allow space for blessings and miracles.  If you’re like me, you might be a bit tight and rigid with your plans. It’s good to work to make things happen, but sometimes God has plans that we are not aware of. A new job, business opportunity, or love might walk into our lives without any effort on our part whatsoever. If we’ve got our head down on the grind, we just might miss it, or might overlook a very cool opportunity or interesting romance because it doesn’t fit into some checklist we’ve designed for our lives. Sound familiar?

In any case, I’m grateful to be on the journey. Thanks for reading, and I hope this blesses you in some way. 2019 – let’s do this!

Your girl, Trina

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